Fighting the Trend: Letting Go of What Might Be
Today, I'm letting go.
It isn't easy.
I'm letting go of something I wanted - something I want - in an honest acknowledgement that what is simply does not align with what I want.
This isn't a bad thing.
I know that, quite often, we allow ourselves to get caught up in What Might Be. The internet and social media is a fantastic source for What Might Be. We are encouraged to follow our dreams, listen to all of those voices that pull us in a different directions, to just Go For It!
Settling for what is seems like we are cheating ourselves out of a richer experience.
And yes - sometimes we get stuck. We sink into the mud we've created and believe this is it, this is all there is. We have to work, pay the bills, so why bother dreaming of more? I've addressed this before as have thousands who write self-help books and online coaching sites. We'll all continue to address it because so many need to hear it.
But today, I'm addressing those of us who need to hear the opposite.
I'm talking to those of us who, right now, need to hear that WHAT IS is all we need to acknowledge and address.
I'm addressing those of us who feel overwhelmed in this pursuit of more. Those of us who are trying to do it all because we are told we CAN if only we work harder, smarter....
I'm telling us to stop sweeping things under the rug, stop putting things in piles, stop saving those things to be read or done LATER.
I'm telling us that a clean house might indicate a boring life, but that we can't use that excuse forever. It might not be pretty, but perhaps cleaning the house instead of going for the walk or creating art is what we need to do today.
I'm telling us to be FULLY HONEST with what it is that we have on our plates, in our closets, and in our heads.
What is really going on in your life right now? Does it reflect who you feel you are? If not, address the clutter and noise in your life right now. Do not move onto something else thinking that it will disappear.
You might want to take a different job, a new class, move to a new house, find a new partner, start a new life. But if that new job/class/house/partner/life is just a way of trying to escape from the current one, the new won't bring any more happiness than the old. In fact, it might bring more stress as things start to fall apart and you struggle with "THIS AGAIN"?!?
It might be beneficial for you to quit your job. It just might not be beneficial right now.
Before you try to run to something new or plunk down money for that other class that promises to fulfill your every desire, take a look around. Listen. Feel. The emails that haven't been answer, the refrigerator that hasn't been cleaned out, the back corner of the closet that still has that stuff piled up (yeah, I know about that)... how does it make you feel? The next meal - do you know what it will be? What have you done for your body today? Your spirit? Your family? How does that make you feel?
Try to sit with what arises. Then move. Don't get caught up in dreaming of the life that will be once all this is done. There will be time for that...but only if you deal with this FIRST.
What Will Be will naturally come when we deal with What Is.
Don't try to rush it.